Vivere la Coppia

di Elisabetta Marsonet

La relazione di coppia è sicuramente una delle relazioni affettive più appaganti ed impegnative che una persona si trova a gestire durante le sua vita.

Why is it so challenging?

In emotional relationships, the relationships that come into play are those between parents and children, friends and couples.

Se consideriamo il senso di libertà e di impegno that we invest in these relationships on one hand we have friendships, with their great sense of freedom that allows us to live these relationships with a certain lightness, without too many constraints. While on the opposite side we have the bond between parents and children which is the most binding bond, which can never end.
But where is the couple's relationship positioned then?
It seems that the couple relationship is placed right in the middle, in the sense that if on one hand we are always free to be with a partner or not, on the other we feel that when we love a person, in order to be together with mutual satisfaction, we bisogno di impegnarci continuamente per mantenere saldo e vivo questo legame.

E l’impegno sta proprio nel scegliere ogni giorno di voler costruire e nutrire una relazione con la persona che abbiamo scelto come nostro partner.

The risk of not being able to overcome difficulties or falling into routine, puts on a hard test un legame che ci auguriamo che sia per sempre, ma che non abbiamo la garazia che sia effettivamente così.
And we also consider how difficult it is to end a relationship when we decide that this is the best choice we can make.

A volte la coppia riesce da sola a ritrovare un equilibrio che riporta al benessere reciproco o per porre termine alla relazione in maniera costruttiva, a volte può essere necessario l’aiuto di un professionista esterno who can read the situation for what it really is and lead the couple where they want to go.

Our experience as practitioners and as a couple allow us to pay particular attention to the following situations, for example:

• The formation of the couple -secede from the family of origin and the phase of falling in love
• The marriage - how the roles changes within the couple
• Live the couple in harmony - design and build together
• The birth of the first child - the newborn needs a new balance in the family
• Retirement - opportunity or source of stress?

• Separation - processing the separation in order to start a new relationship
• New couples after a separation - new bonds and new balances: extended families